Women, Put Yourselves First!!

I believe that women, especially those who are married with children should sometimes prioritize their needs first.  Of course I don't mean all of the time or to the point where they neglect the needs of their loved ones.  I just mean that it's healthy to sometimes put yourself first.  You can't make anyone happy if you yourself aren't happy.

I grew up  observing older women from the baby boomer generation including my mother. Many of these women sacrificed their needs and happiness for the sake of their spouses and children.  I noticed that the happiness of the woman didn't seem to matter.  She was there to serve her family, and to make sure they were happy even if she wasn't.   I resented that because I knew one day I would be married with children.  No way was I going to allow anyone to make me feel as if my happiness didn't matter.   I'm going to use my mother for example.  My mother took good care of us, and I remember as a teenager wondering why my mother never did things that she wanted to do.  It disturbed me because it seemed as if she was living for us and not for herself.  It made me think that she just didn't have interest in things normal women would be interested in such as going to the spa, visiting another country, etc.   Well, years passed and conversations were had, and things I thought she was not interested in, she expressed much excitement.  That did my heart good to see her so happy and being able to live life, have fun and do things that she wanted to do.  The older generations sacrificed a lot for us which is why I will always respect them.

I just don't think the women of generation X and after should sacrifice their happiness.  There have been times when I was unhappy for the sake of another family member, and it was one of the worst feelings you can experience.  I will sacrifice time.  I will sacrifice money.  I will sacrifice sentimental material possessions, but I will not sacrifice my happiness. It's simply not worth it.

As women, we have a lot to offer, talents and gifts to share, and love to pass around.

I am the dark mystique.